The Problem of Porn

Photo Credit: Creative Commons

Photo Credit: Creative Commons

I came across a post entitled “3 Things I Want My Son to Know About Porn” from Brandon Andress when two different friends from two different circles posted it to their facebook pages. It’s good. I reblogged it earlier today. His fight to save his son — our sons, our daughters — brings to light simple truths. Our appetites control our behavior. Once indulged, enough will never be enough, until the chains of bondage choke from our hearts their last breaths.

Many of us, including me, turn our heads to the realities he mentioned. We laugh about laughing at the newest sitcoms, the skin that now shows in the “family” tv hour, the superbowl ads that sell sex. When the geek gets what he wants, he wins, right? We all win, right? We cheer for him, the brave one who conquers his fear and captures his scant-clothed prize. The commercial becomes the buzz.

The problem is, if we dare to follow the back story of this young man’s life, he’ll now begin to seek other means to satisfy his awakened cravings. Soon the young man will buy sex with a young woman, then two, and soon he’ll be living in the shadows, thinking he has the “right” to feel good about himself by “owning” a different woman every night.

Those young women? They’re our daughters. Daughters whose discouraged self-worth led them to hook up with a smooth-talker at a coffee shop or at the mall. He made them feel loved, valued, treasured—with his words, with his touch. Then he took them to meet his “friends.” And he locked the door after them — from the outside.

Sex trafficking is the second highest grossing crime behind only gun sales in the U.S. It’s no longer a problem that exists only in other countries, or even in other cities. It’s happening here. Our daughters — and our sons — need us to open our eyes to the realities of our fallen world.

We need to be aware and not be afraid to engage in conversations, educating ourselves and educating our kids. Awareness is key. Stranger danger? You bet. But it’s not just for preschoolers.

Moms and dads, please follow Brandon’s lead. Don’t be afraid. Strengthen your sons and daughters in the Truth. Teach them to guard their hearts. Develop a relationship with them that makes them feel safe to talk with you about anything. And in all things, love. Be tenacious. Be the love you want them to know. Show them love you want them to live.

If this tweaks your heart, and you want to know more about the dangers our kids face to meet the demands pornography helped to create, may I recommend you check out Rescuing Hope: A Story of Sex Trafficking in America? It’s a project I helped to develop and publish. It’s gritty, real life fiction for young adults, based on the stories rescued girls shared with author, Susan Norris.

I left this entire comment on Brandon’s post without a shrug. Why? Because you matter. Because you need to know you’re not alone. I’m a single woman fighting for you, fighting with you, wrestling the enemy for the sake of your kids, your family. It’s my heart to speak the truth of God’s heart toward you, toward us. We’re created for community, to walk alongside each other in this journey Home.

Thanks for inviting me into your life by clicking on the link to read these words. Several different groups of friends plan to use Rescuing Hope in their book clubs. If you want more info or links to organizations doing work in this arena, let me know. If you’re already engaging in conversations for awareness and protection, leave a note for someone else here, will you? Someone reading needs your encouragement and maybe your connection.

5 responses to “The Problem of Porn

  1. When we instill in our children values and principals that create healthy self worth and clear communications, they carry that on into their adult life. The ones that have problems with things like porn, come from an unhealthy family system. And this habit can be healed, by a spouse that comes from a healthy family system. Simply by coming from strong self-worth, and clear communications.
    I think porn will always be an issue. However, I live my life the way I want the world to be, so at least my circle is untouched by this.
    Blessings…

    • Christopher, living your life the way you want the world to be takes strength these days, especially when you’re responsible for all the members of your household. It sounds as though you’re leading your family well. In turn, you testify to the blessings of wholeness in Christ. Thank you for being an encouragement!

    • Margaret, you’re welcome. Thank you for visiting my cyber home. Though I don’t hang out here as much right now as I hope to in the future, it’s always good to know that folks find the door open and are glad they came through it.

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